Common Marriage System
The traditional marriage is arranged one. The family cooperation with relative’s circles finds girl for a boy. It is very natural that boys and family have not seen each other in their life. They have no say in their marriage. It is the family that finds a suitable spouse for their child. Often a middleman or woman, a priest or someone skilled to put forward and proceed with the proposal is invited to play the middleman called LAMI the LAMI culture is very popular in Hindu marriage system. Once the talk finalizes, then there are exchanges of the letter called Patra to decide the final date and mode of marriage the main highlight of the marriage rituals the boy’s family, relatives and friends. In the past, only males went to Janti and females stayed home to organize a funny night called RATYOULI (dancing and singing). Once the JANTI approaches the bride family compound, a group of relatives of the bride welcomes them. Then begin the night day long rites. The priests officiate the entire marriage rituals but it is the couple who play a major role in completing all the detailed rites prescribed by the holy book of marriage. Main rites are feet washing of marriage called KANAYADAN, Putting of vermillion powder and beads, going around the fire, play dices, feed the food, exchange of dress and ornaments and other gifts. After finishing all these rituals, the bride’s family bid goodbye to the couple and JANTI.
One can see several changes in marriage ritual today. In the cities, there is growing custom to organize the marriage in the temple compound and make the whole rite shorts. Changes have also come in terms of age couple. Today the couple is not minor lave marriage has made the job of negotiation easier.
Marriage is a social union or legal contract between individuals that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual are acknowledged by a variety of ways, depending on the culture or demographic. Such a union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually called a wedding. People marry for many reasons most often including one or more of the following: legal, social, emotional, economic, and religious. These might include arranged marriages, family obligations, and the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and public declaration of love. Marriage practices are very diverse across cultures, may take many forms, normative or legal obligations between the individuals involved.
Different form of marriage system of Nepal
Polyandry is that kind of marriage in which a woman is married to two or more husband at the same time. Polygyny, on the other hand, refers to polygamy in which one man is married to two or more wives.
Fraternal polyandry marriage is that marriage in which two or more brothers share one wife. This kind of marriage is found in certain areas of Tibet and Nepal where polyandry is accepted. Apart from the famous example of fraternal polyandry in the Mahabharata between the five Pandava brothers and Draupadi, there are other instances, both in Hindu history and folklore. In contemporary Hindu society, many social scientists have expressed a fear of critical compulsion of polyandry in the near future. Fraternal polyandry achieves a similar goal to what primogeniture did in 19th century England. Primogeniture dictated that the eldest son inherited the family estate, while younger sons had to leave home and seek their own employment.
In Hinduism, polygamy was practiced in many sections of Hindu society in ancient times. There was one example of polyandry in the ancient Hindu epic, Mahabharat; Draupadi married five Pandava brothers as a message to human society. Regarding polygamy in Ramayana, father of Ram, King Dasharath has three wives but Ram has pledged himself just one wife. In Hindu god, Lord Krishna, the 8th incarnation of the Hindu god Vishnu had 16000 wives, although there is controversy regarding this because some Hindu scholars argue that Krishna left Brindabon(where he spent his childhood with some male and female company) at the age of 12 to save his birthplace from the evil kind, Kansho.
2: Sororate Marriage
Sororate marriage is that kind of marriage in which a husband engages in marriage or sexual relations with the sister of his wife, usually after the death of his wife, or once his wife has proven infertile. From an anthropological standpoint, this type of marriage strengthens the lies between both groups (the wife’s family or clan and the husband’s) and preserves the contract between the two to provide children and continue the alliance. This type of marriage is also performed in BHUTAN. Former king Jigme Singye Wangchuck is married to four wives all of whom are sisters. In Nepal also people have practices this kind of marriage.
3: Levirate Marriage
Levirate Marriage is that kind of marriage in which a woman is required to marry her deceased husband’s brother. Levirate marriage has been practiced by societies with a strong clan structure in which exogamous marriage i.e. that outside the clan, was forbidden.
4: Child Marriage
Child Marriage refers to two separate social phenomena which are practiced in some societies. The first and more widespread practice is that of marrying a young child (generally defined as below the age of fifteen) to an adult. This kind of marriage is held due to lack of education and poverty. In the Western and Far western Part Nepal, this kind of marriage is famous these days.
5: Monogamy Marriage
In this marriage a man is married only to a single woman and the woman has also someone. This is common these days.
6: Cross-Cousin Marriage
This marriage takes place between the daughter of maternal uncle and son/daughter of patriarchal sister’s. In Gurung and Tamang society this type of marriage is common. It is very common in Muslim society too.
7: Love Marriage
This marriage is very much being common not only in Hindu but also in Muslim, Buddhist culture. Both in remote and urban areas this is common. We can say that it has given rise to flying marriage where boys and girls elope for few days if they feel that their parents are against their love. Nowadays, this marriage is stared from school, college and universities.
8: Arrange Marriage
This is also common throughout the country where both sides of boys and girls arrange marriage in co-operation.